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Happy Mother's Day

Helen Brougham - Monday, May 06, 2013

Mother's Day

Mums Greatest Dream is her Family

All Getting Along With Each Other


Here is a great book that can help mum with her discovery of the world her children live in.
It this harder to keep up with new technology.
The older generation are becoming tired and some feel they have lived long enough.

Mother's Day is the day to be with your mum and grandma

It can be a lovely afternoon lunch
Flowers of yellows, Pinks, Purple and white
Cards of thanks
Remembering your mum here or resting in peace
There is a feeling of warmth as we find our own way
to Be, Love & Care

Give this beautiful book of Empowering You & Your Family to your Mum you Love
From one mum to another Mum

Massage is a SPECIAL way to give to Your Mums


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Listening To Your Children Is Key To Building Trusting Family Relationships

Helen Brougham - Sunday, December 09, 2012

Quit Bouncing -  Listen To Your Child
by Helen Brougham

A child comes to their parents when they don't know what to do.

But how you act while your child is talking to you is so important to any future conversation.

  • Listen, do not interrupt your child talking be patient
  • Keep your cool, no matter what !!!!!
  • Ask your child how can you help them
  • Ask for permission or give your child some ideas
  • Less talking on your part (the parent) works best

Be aware of any negative behaviour or any negative communication.

Listen to what your child is saying NOT your own experiences from the past. If your past experiences are negative, from fearful situations, and if your mind is wandering away, STOP and bring yourself back and be present with your child

The reason children  stop talking to their parents is because parents stop listening and became angry, upset, start yelling and making their children wrong.

Remember when you were a child and you stopped talking to your parents???  I stopped talking to my Dad when he made fun of me in front of other people -  in that moment I decided I could not trust him.

Why is it that our children have problems with relationships?

Most children don't know what has happened in their parents' lives. Many times how a parent reacts to what their child is saying does go back to their own childhood issue or an issue that happened some time during the parent's life. When your  child is talking to you and you begin to get upset, what is actually triggering your reaction is what happened to you when you were their age! Children really don't have problems talking to their parents until they experience something that causes them to believe it is not safe to do so. Too many parents don't think they can help their children ... but patiently listening to their children has been shown to be some of the best help a parent can give their child.

Recently I spoke with a little girl about 9 years old. She was not enjoying school and did not want to go back to school after the holiday. Her Mum noticed a while ago a change in her daughters behaviour. After speaking with the little girl, her Mum found out that she was being teased terribly by her classmates. they came to me for some coaching about how to best deal with this situation.

One of two things usually happens when someone is teasing a child, the child will either block it out, or they will believe what is being said to them straight away. It is really important to teach children that  it is not about them, and that it is about the person who is saying the stuff that is bothering them.

Everybody - other parents, siblings, friends at school, even the child's teacher says that the child is stressed out, and that the child has an issue with feeling left out of things. The child wants to know what's wrong with her. She feels like no one understands her. The child starts to act up and rebel -  she stops doing what people want her to do, starts getting angry, stops listening to what her parents and others have to say. Sometimes, a child will begin speaking without stopping, or even stop communicating all together and become silent.

What is really happening is children see and pick up feelings from the people act around them and how they are acting ....

This little 9 year old girl had a teacher who had her favorite students in the class. however the little girl was not one of the favorites. The little girl believed that the teacher did not want to know her and she was annoyed by this. In addition, the little girl was having a hard time with math because it was hard for her to do. So, the child was kept in at lunchtime and she felt the teacher was punishing her because she could not play with her only friend. She was even told by one of the other girls to not play with her friend or she would be in trouble.

Parents listen to your child, you do have more answers than you think, be confident! Go and see your child's teacher. Be open and and willing to listen to what they have to say. It helps to be friends with your children's friends' parents. As they grow and want everything that there friends have, all of you can work together to help one another and balance out what they really need with what they say they want just because they see their other friends with it.

Be confident in your ability to help your child. They need you more than they need others. There are many tools out there that you can use to build confidence to help you learn the skills you need to become the kind of confident parent you want to be!

Helen Brougham is a Mum of 4, remedial & pregnancy massage therapist, empowering author and coach, owner of Chelsea Massage Clinic. She is passionate about empowering women to step through life's challenges with ease and grace. Helen's newest book, "Empowering You & Your Family" is a down to earth approach to Love, Peace and Joy for Mum's everywhere.

 

 

 

 

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Empowering The Family Man

Helen Brougham - Saturday, September 22, 2012

 Empowering The Family Man Chapter 6

(new book coming out)
 
Empowering The Family Man Helen Brougham
 
Who Is Dad At Home With His Children?
 
Remember the song “when you coming home Dad, we’ll get together then” ?

They never did get together…

You know how you wanted to be, talk to, play with and go with Dad as a child. This is how to be with your own children.

I remember myself saying in my thoughts, “When I have children I’m not going to do that… to my children” I am going to do this or that.

Because it was a painful memory we will very quietly do it and for me I had to find where I was doing what I did not like as a child.

Yes I found it!!! This is not the time to be upset or annoyed with myself,  just smile and go I found it. Now I can change that behaviour and behave in a happy enjoyable way.

Your child’s behaviour comes from …??? Who do you think??? YOU … the parents. Yes, Mum and Dad, yes!!! They learned their behaviour from their parents.  Yes… that is why you see your worst behaviours done by your children. They learned  them from you. When you get upset, your child is learning how to do what you do. The good news is you can let go of that behaviour, without even speaking to the child. It will be gone once you let go of the issue that is causing it. That is such a relief.

Language around children is a big thing. How you talk and the sound of your voice, even the way you say your words is the way your parents speak. First we learn by listening to Mum and Dad, grandparents and sibling and the people we love. When Dad first holds and talks quietly to his child right at delivery, the bond happens right at that very moment.  Dad, your child adores loves and knows you from that moment. You are connected no matter what. You’re the one. xoxox

Dad you can put your child to sleep as easily as Mum once the baby has breast fed. You have the magic, but it must start from the very beginning - right from Mum’s and Dad’s and baby’s heart when everything is new to all of you. The more you do Dad, the quicker you will flow and be so connected. You’ve seen Dads being at one with their child. That is so beautiful and amazing to watch - a dad and his child being so connected and aligned together. This happens when your child’s relationship with you and your relationship with them grow together as one. In past generations, Mum did all the looking after the baby while Dad watched from the side lines. It took a while for everyone to figure out this does not work. It causes separation and the can lead to a myriad of problems!

My Son and his little boy live on a farm. He has started taking his 2 ½ years old with him when he drives the tractor around the paddock. His son loves being on the tractor. The baby also knows what the truck sounds like. The sheep sales are coming up soon and my son is going to take his little boy to a ram sale so that he can smell the wool and touch the sheep. My son will show him where the sheep’s eyes and feet are. The baby will also be able to hear the other people around them - all simple little things to do, but very important to his son’s learning.

This is how our children learn to be intuitive. When we open their minds to the real world around them, they get really curious and want to learn more. We just have to make sure it is FUN.

Cooking a barbecue could be a great learning experience for both you and your child, especially if you never have a barbecue and you don’t know how to cook with gas! Just imagine what your children could learn as they watch YOU learning how to do it!!
 
My grandfather was a farmer. He was very keen on the law and would share information about different stories in the newspaper. Because of what I learned from him, when a legal situation comes up I know what it means.  I know what to write and say because my grandpa talked to me and I would listen to him and it all went into my head. It was a lot of fun too because I loved being with grandpa and he loved being with me. It might have been just 5 minutes with me and I got all of that information.

Now when someone older starts talking and sharing information with me, I automatically stop and spend time with them just as my grandfather did with me.

In one way our children will be our finest work and achievement as they grow into an adult. The person they choose to marry and what they create with their life is an extension of YOU. Before you know it, your adult children are having children and you get to watch the whole cycle again. This process is how each generation becomes the best they can be for future generations. It has been lovely to watch how the last 1 to 2 generations have shifted the behaviours of fear, anger, and being less than others. We can see humanity evolving for the better right in front of us!

Parents who are separating truly can help their children have an amazing future if they are committed to their child’s future and future generations. Too many people are unaware of the damage and setbacks they cause themselves and their children with their bad emotional behaviour. They simply don’t know what they don’t know.

Spend Time Playing with your children and you will reap the rewards. As you spend time with your parents and siblings, your wife’s parents and siblings you will bring community to your family for generations to come.

Your parents gave you life and now it’s time to return it to them during the last years of their lives. What you show your children is what they will do to and for you down the track. Nobody is perfect this is what makes life interesting and we all have our little ways don’t we!!!

Advertising and marketing would have us all separate and alone. And when this happens, who do you have to support you during difficult times when you need to work through shock, trauma from accidents, the stress and anxiety of just living life?  

Talk with your children. They have a wealth of information that will totally amaze you. It is way beyond what we can learn with TV, computers and Google.

What you can teach them is a down-to-earth way of being with nature. Teach them how to enjoy the sound of the wind, listening to the birds and how to, as my granddaughter tells me, “don’t stand on the caterpillar grandma Helen.”  I took the time to show her all about the ants and caterpillars when she was 2 years old. Now she has a connection with nature and all of its amazing animals. It’s all about sharing and caring for all of the things that are a part of life. That is an amazing gift to give someone. The question I have for you is, “What is your gift to your children going to be?”

Showing your children about what you love and what you do, this is the connection you will have with your children. Show them your life
 
Farmers teach their children from the time they start walking. They teach their children to use their senses. Can you hear the tractor? Listen to hear where the noise is coming from. Wait until the noise stops. Then yell loud and call DAD until your dad answers. When your dad comes for you, then you can go with dad. The same type of thing can be taught to a child living in the city.

Accidents happen on farms and in the city because the children are not trained to be safe. It’s a good thing to allow your children to get their hands dirty and experience real life.
 

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Helen Brougham has been professionally massaging clients for over 20 years. She has a unique holistic approach to remedial, pregnancy and therapeutic massage on its own, or by using her coaching expertise to help people uncover what is blocking their path to them successfully making changes to excel in their health, their family and their passion to have a full life of Love, Peace and Joy.

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A Note To Dads Everywhere - It's OK To Really Enjoy Being A Dad!!

Helen Brougham - Monday, August 06, 2012
 
Past generations had a set way it had to go to be a Dad. A man was boo-hooed if he looked after his own child. People said alot of things about that man being under his wife's thumb. Even today, alot of men are taught that they have to control their emotions ... especially emotions like sadness, confusion, or being afraid, and even showing how much they truly love another human being ... that they are somehow not a real man if they express their emotions.
 
However, that paradigm has shifted now days ... and quite a few people (especially women) feel that it is more than ok for a man to be someone who is  balanced, in harmony, and connected to himself, his wife /partner, his children, his family and the people around him and at work.
 
The blokey-bloke kind of a guy is not considered to the best choice as a life partner and husband. He is often left to his own devices to spend his time with his mates who don’t want to leave being a carefree teenager behind, too enchanted with living a life of little to no responsibility. How often do we see guys like this break the law, always saying that it was an accident and not their fault? Or, we see them manipulating other people to get as much as they can out of them? I honestly believe that guys are like this because they are afraid, so they come off as difficult and withheld from the world, shutting themselves behind a door that they have locked to everybody. What they are afraid of is what their heart really desires; to be understood and loved… We all know a couple of guys that fall into this category!

Now let's take a look at a more contemporary type guy ... 

Women really do love their man to be strong, kind, loving and gentle; someone who is not afraid to express his emotions, to be tender enough to really get what his woman is going through when she is going through it, and not afraid to hold her close when that is what she needs. The way he is has very little to do with the words he uses, it is all about the emotional connection he creates with her.

Today, for many reasons, many dads are taking on the role of being house-husband, caring for their children and doing housework because their wives are working outside of the home. Statistics show, that once these men know what to do and find their domestic feet, they love the role reversal. Some share the role each week so both parents have time with their children while still working outside the home to keep things balanced. People have become very creative in how they choose to balance home and work so that both partners are happy and fulfilled, home and work are well tended to, and happy, healthy children are being raised! 
 
People are also realizing the impact their physical health has on keeping stress low, increasing patience, increasing energy and mental clarity.  If traditional forms of exercise aren't having a positive impact on someone's overall health and well-being, I recommend that they start a remedial massage program and combine it with clarity coaching.  These empowering sessions contribute substantially to overall long term health and wellness. When you look at people that have a monthly massage, you can with your own eyes that they even look younger and are noticeably calmer than the general population.

Here's something to consider :) ... Have you ever asked your husband, wife or partner what ways they like to be shown that they are loved? Perhaps you could ask your children that question too?

Think about that for a moment; when do you feel you are loved? I thought deeply about that and realized it was not the buying of flowers or jewellery, going out for dinner, or buying me stuff like all the advertising says you must do. It's the cup of coffee Des (my fabulous husband of 25 years) would bring me while I was working, that I didn't ask for, that tells me he loves me. Almost too simple right? :)

When I asked my husband what showed him that I loved him, I thought I knew the answer but to my surprise it was very different!! It was receiving a hug before getting out of bed in the morning that he loved. The lesson here is that it is much easier to ask and find out so we can naturally love them the old-fashioned way, the way that makes them feel loved the most!
 
This week’s action challenge is….. Have a monthly one hour massage. And, find out what shows your special person that they are well loved by YOU! Do it the easy way and simply ask them!!
 
 
Here's to Empowering The Family Man!!
Much Love and Many Blessings ...
 


 

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What Are You Watching On TV?

Helen Brougham - Sunday, July 29, 2012

 

 

What are you watching on TV?  

Watching TV can affect what is real, integrity, behaviours, how we do things, what we should think how to have good children and how to be happy without things, happy relationships, relaxed and having a great life.  The golden arches will not make you happy by eating the food, so you will keep going back to get happy. Ever worth was it nice or.....

A series on TV is called Revenge series is not real and the behaviour does have consequences to the actions that we do.  This is not a behaviours that brings harmony, but a threat of getting back at someone.

Some of the advertising ads are really is downright dangerous, and children will have a go.  I had a game with my children about who got pulled into that ad, what they are really selling, and do you think you could really do what they did?  This was to bring the children's attention out of the TV and why they have all the ads to get you in.

Going to the shops that have a sale is not practical for children they don't realize the games to get them in.  Children want what everybody else has got; this great want and have to have behaviour is very overwhelming for them – but it is also happening to the parent wanting everything now.

By Using this as a game with your children and on yourself, it also opens their thoughts to an awareness of what friends do, and they can choose to side-step quietly what other people want you to do, while they watch you or make you join in to what they are doing.

Practitioner: Helen Brougham

Helen Brougham has been professionally massaging clients for over 20 years. She has a unique holistic approach to remedial, pregnancy and therapeutic massage on its own, or by using her coaching expertise to help people uncover what is blocking their path to them successfully making changes to excel in their health, their family and their passion to have a full life of Love, Peace and Joy.

 

 

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Self Talk - Your Best Friend or Your Worst Enemy?

Helen Brougham - Tuesday, July 17, 2012
 
What do you say to yourself?

Stop for a moment, get really quiet and listen to what that little voice inside of your head is saying! You might be surprised at what you are actually saying to yourself!!
 
Some of you just might be saying ... "What little voice are you talking about? I don't hear any little voice!!" Hmmmm ... are you really sure about that?

You may or may not know this, but that little voice is taking in over 2 million pieces of information every day... information that is  going directly into the unconscious mind.

Have you noticed that voice is not on your side? It is telling you not to do this and not to do that all day long!

Self-talk is what we hear in our heads when we are thinking. Those words (thoughts) are created in the now and are played out throughout the days and weeks, months and years of your life. They come complete with all the experiences, the feelings, words and pictures ... and it all becomes real. Your actions (which create your results) are in line with how you feel, see, hear and make sense of the movie going on in your head.

Self-talk is where you can have positive and negative emotional patterns and this causes the behaviours (actions) that you take. Our whole way of being, actions, our feelings, and even what we hear is influenced by how we think and talk to ourselves.

Self-talk can also be used for another purpose. Once we have harnessed how self-talk works and understand how to use it effectively, we can use it to heal those areas of pain that prevent us from moving forward in our lives. Many people have used self-talk to instill a belief of real freedom through changing the context of those limiting, negative emotions.  Understanding the origin of those limiting emotions, where they come from and what caused them, has helped many people find their own peace. And that has changed their lives forever! Peace is an amazing feeling that heals on many different levels.

What would you see if you looked into the future without anything holding you back?

Look really closely and see what could be possible for you and your life.

They say when people have made lots of money from what they do, they sell their business to make alot more money. Then they buy a few things, do what they love to do, travel all over the world and spend lots of time with people they love.

What are you saying to yourself right now?

What is really holding you back from making the changes you need to make in order to feel free and move forward in your life?
 
I'm on a mission to create a community of people that are being uplifted daily and who are moving forward to have love, peace and joy in their lives. If that sounds like something you are into, come join us on Facebook ... you will be welcomed and celebrated!!
 
 

As always, my mission is to help you and your family live empowered lives filled with love, peace and joy!

In the comments below, tell me ONE specific insight you gained from this post about Self-Talk ... Your Best Friend or Worst Nightmare and how it’ll help you along your journey of self-discovery, growth and happiness.

Much Love and Many Blessings ... Helen


 
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Are You Going On Holiday? Chelsea Massage VIP Newsletter

Helen Brougham - Saturday, June 30, 2012

Intro: Message from Helen - Who's Going on Holiday?

Quick Tips: Tip# 36: Hip Pain that Comes from Running on a Treadmill 

Tip #44: Low Vitamin D from Working Inside

Feature Article: "Remedial Massage - Relieve Chronic Pain"

Talk About: Pregnancy & Massage - They Say Massage Releases Toxins!

Helen Recommends: Helen's New Book, "Empowering Your Family" - How to Be with the 2012 Child 

   Welcome: New Readers to the Chelsea Massage Community47

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Message from Helen

Who's going on holiday?

Here in Australia it is winter.  The winter weather is fabulous for the farmers and for the gardens and it's so lovely to stay indoors by a warm fire.

The U.S., UK and many other countries are having lovely warm and hot summer weather.

Who wants to go on holiday?

To pack and carry those bags, you need to have a healthy body so you'll be fit and pain free to travel -- and pack and carry those bags and have a fabulous time -- and there is always plenty of walking! One way of being well enough to go away on holidays is to have a few massages over six weeks before you go away to get all the muscles loosened up before you go.

It is also good well-being when you are going to travel in the car or do some work you are not used to doing like cleaning Mum's house out, renovating the back garden or painting the house.  Have a massage to limber up; it is too late if you do your back in, then you will be having remedial massage treatments 2 times a week to recover -- and you get no back garden done!  

 

Quick Tips

Helen Tip #36:  Hip Pain that Comes from Running on a Treadmill

Running on a treadmill can look easy and like running on grass or around the streets on a hard surface.  Next time you do, notice what you do different.  The little muscles around the hip joint gets tight and quickly starts to pull and cause pain down the outside.  Your legs and other areas start to get what most people think is putting on weight at the side of the upper leg.  Many think more exercise is needed to get rid of that extra fat; the real problem is the pain becomes worse from trying.  Remedial massage will unlock the real reason.

Lara Tip #44:  Low Vitamin D from Working Inside

People that are indoors all day, every day wonder what they can do if they work indoors all day.  Yes, they say wear sunscreen when going outdoors. 

But many health practitioners and doctors are quietly thinking that we still need to get 10-15 minutes of sun each day so our body can get the Vitamin D it needs to absorb for health throughout the year, so be sure to get your 10-15 minutes of sunshine and enjoy a healthy life.

Feature Article

Remedial Massage - Relieve Chronic Pain

You can have a good time and be pain free, knowing life is like a long, happy holiday -- OR a nightmare with no end in sight!

It is a shock when you have pain and the pain will just not go away.  Yes, I can give you the medical version of what it is but that's not my area of expertise.  Our expertise is we find that muscles do have feelings, they do feel pain, and they shut down and feel so hard and restrictive.  That prevents the muscles from being relaxed and stretching to open and be able to do what you like to, like laying in a different way in bed.  Look at your children when they sleep -- their arms and legs are going in every direction because the muscles are relaxed.

Chronic pain can happen from a car accident, work injury, stress, grief, and overloading from a continued demanding work environment.  It is the jerking, pulling, hitting your head, bruises, and trauma.

It can be felt throughout your whole body or in a particular area like your back, legs, or stomach pain.  It can feel like it is in your head, causing headaches, migraines, neck pain, ear ache or ringing in your ears from tendinitis.  Others experience overwhelming mind fatigue where you can't focus on anything and your head is in a fog and you have a sense of anxiousness and can't understand what is going on; your heart feels tight, breathing is shallow, or you experience grief.

It is difficult to get a handle on what to do for the best results.  At this point the muscles are all screaming and the relief that remedial massage has on chronic pain like this is profound.

Massage opens the fibres of the muscles so they can stretch again.  Pushing, poking and stretching exercises can't make the muscles come apart -- it is almost like super glue that's stuck together. 

Chronic pain in the body has been caused by many inside and outside impacts and trauma for a very long time and the body cannot do any more until the mind/body connection has been rebalanced and health returns -- which can only be controlled by each person.

The big problem is that until you start feeling good you don't know what is really good.  Some chase the quick fix, seeing one person once then chasing the next shiny idea; or maybe someone told you someone did them good so you race off to that person, then another person.

But unfortunately nobody gets to the deeper layers of what is happening and you don't get the needed results.  All you get is more confusion, pain and discomfort.

Chasing the cheap deals can end up being very expensive, time consuming and provide minimal help.  This is your health you're playing with.  Tablets will not be effective and provide a long lasting, full health recovery and balance.

Some have one, two, even three treatments and feel better, then return after 2-3 years time.  Because we are all working, the stress of everyday life builds up and overflows into pain; having a massage once a month keeps you returning to balance on the internal and external body world.

Remember, life is about enjoying our lives and having fun!

Practitioner: Helen Brougham Helen Brougham has been professionally massaging clients for over 20 years. She has a unique holistic approach to remedial, pregnancy and therapeutic massage on its own, or by using her coaching expertise to help people uncover what is blocking their path to them successfully making changes to excel in their health, their family and their passion to have a full life of Love, Peace and Joy.

 


Practitioner: Lara Brougham Lara has been professionally massaging for over 10 years. She specialises in ankle, back and shoulder injuries as well as healing clients with lower back pain. Even the oldest of our clients, who are 90 years old, down to the youngest such as 5 year old children, have aches and pain problems. Lara makes a huge amount of difference so they can sleep at night and start enjoying life again.

 

 

Pregnancy & Massage

  • They say massage releases toxins!
  • Should I have a massage while breastfeeding?

Massage does release toxins, but this is not poisonous or a chemical.  We are talking about the build-up of stress, hormones, birthing, time fatigue, refined foods and additives, congestion and fatigue -- all of which can be minimised by massage.

While you are breastfeeding, massage rebalances your hormones, giving you a better quality of breast milk, a calmer mum, calmer baby, sleep better, feel better, and the recovery from pregnancy and the birthing process is quicker.  Mum's energy returns much quicker and she is able to cope well with all the changes, and she will be empowered and have a clear mind; she feels good!

Most mums don't get that; they feel they have a foggy head, crying baby and a fatigued mum is normal.  No, that normal is not empowering to a mum.

Pregnancy & Remedial Massage is best.

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Empowering You and Your Family

Today's insight from inside the pages of "Empowering You & Your Family" is from
Chapter 5 - Talk to Your Children

A mum was here at Chelsea Massage having a massage, and her son had been going to kindy.  Sometimes he would come home happy, other times sad.  When mum asked him about his day, he would say the other kids did not want to play with him, then the next day they were his best friends.  The little boy did not understand why and felt lonely because it was not like that at home; he only knew loving relationships around him.  Mum did not know what to say except the classic, "It will be alright; you'll find some other friends."

This is where the magic comes in; as parents we can bring clarity through listening and feeling those experiences of what your child is going through.  What is even better is you, as the adult, knows it is a negative experience and you can give the child clarity that this is how some people behave and it has nothing to do with you.

So you tell them when these times happen again where others don't want to play, join another group and ask them if you can play with them.  If you like that group and they treat you well, be with those people.  Give your children the tools to talk and play with other children.  Teach your children not to put up with being treated badly.  Let your child know it is not their fault or they are doing something wrong, but stand up and say to them that there are other children to talk and play with.

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Mum, Massage and Mentoring

Helen Brougham - Thursday, June 21, 2012
Mum, Massage and Mentoring

Mums all want to be happy, be a good mum, have a good time, live with no pressure ... really just enjoy an easy going life! It makes things better for everyone in the family! Your children find it easy to love you, appreciate you. They WANT to be with you. It's really not too much to ask for, is it?
 
However, reality is a little different ... Mums tend to feel guilty for not getting IT right. They feel overwhelmed when it all feels like too much. They blame themselves when their children are being unsettled, doing everything they possibly can to be silly, not listening and if Mum asks, they don’t have a clue why they are being that way. All Mum really wants to do is just disappear and block out the world for a while. I know that this happened for me when I had little ones, and I hear about it everyday from women that I massage and mentor at the clinic.
 
When we are not coping well, we feel even worse. And thinking about how to make things better seems like a long, hard haul. We don't understand why things have changed and we feel like we are all alone in with our struggles. This is especially true for women who had a full on career before they had children where they were in total control and everything was alot easier!

We don't regret having the children, but we really regret not having control and order in our lives. We miss the control and the ease with which we were living our lives before we had children.

I know alot of Mums who have lost years of their lives and their children's lives because they are confused and struggling trying to figure out how to get back to NORMAL!  They are frustrated because they know there is a way to do it, but the tools and the direction to go in is hidden away in plain sight and it usually takes a long time to find them.
 
Many mums come into the clinic so that they can get a massage that will help make the physical aches and pains go away. They are stressed out, complaining of pain in the neck, arms, shoulder, back -  some even say that their pain is all over their entire body! They tell me about their daily activities - lifting the children, how busy they are at work, how busy they are with school activities - rushing to drop off and pick up the children, getting them to and attending all their sports and activities, cooking cleaning and the list goes on and on ....

The mums I work with are tired and drained. When mums have a massage, one of the first things I notice is that one shoulder pulling down on one side which comes from carrying a big bag or groceries with the same arm on the same side of the body. The shoulder strap cuts into the muscles and they walk around with their other shoulder locked back to prevent the bag from falling of their shoulder. It gets even worse because alot of women carry laptops back and forth from work. The weight of the bag puts pressure on affects the tendons in the fingers while they are working on their computers all day long. Everything gets worse because they are sitting at their desk too long. When they stand up they are stiffer than stiff from sitting in the chair all day.

As I loosen the muscles up around the shoulder and down the arm, the tension lets go. Opening the muscles spreads the muscle fibers apart, lengthening the muscle and fanning the muscles. This releases the tension and stored emotions out of the muscle which have become mattered and tight. As you use the muscle it pulls and this is when it gets painful because the muscle cannot open up properly and stretch long.
 
The body feels strong because strength comes from the open and long muscle fibres. The body feels weak when the muscles are overused and mattered. Contrary to popular belief, no amount of stretching will lengthen the muscle, once it is mattered and pain is present. When stretching is done at this stage, injury happens. Recovering from an injury like this, when it is accompanied by overwhelming fatigue, takes a long time.

Fatigue feels like perpetual heaviness - your mind is tired and you can’t think straight. You feel confused, like there is a pressure inside of your head that will not go away. But very quickly a massage can relieve this pressure. Alot of people feel light headed after a massage. This happens because that pressure let go and it takes a few minutes for the body and ears to rebalance. It's a good sign when that happens. It let's you know how tight you were and how much has released.

Around the neck there are lots of little muscles. If you have hit your head or been in a car accident and had your head thrown back and forwards, this is enough to cause whiplash which over stretches the muscles. In reality, these are fine little tears in the muscles which don't heal when the muscles are stressed.

Having a full body massage restores overall balance because the muscles are relaxed. We figured out a way to make that experience even more relaxing. When it is cold outside, we have an electric blanket on the massage table so each person is snuggly and cosy warm Shhhhhhh it is a secret, so don't tell anyone :)

I have found that using massage table time to help mums work through their life issues gets relief and results quickly. Many times when a mum has an issue about something that is not working in her life, something that is draining her physically and mentally, I will ask about what is stressing her out. During a massage, I can feel what the other person is feeling. If she wants help with her issue she will talk about what is happening for her. If she doesn't feel like talking that is ok too, she will just stay stuck in her issue. Have got to tell you though, most Mums don’t want to keep putting up with the stress so they let it all go on the massage table. I have seen women literally transform on my table - they have let go of grief, past trauma, shock, injury ... massage works for everything that mums are struggling with - that they have been struggling with for years!

It is such a gift to see "the real person" show up, taking over once again and living life the way they were designed to live it! Bodies are healed, minds are cleared, relationships are restored, families start living with more joy, happiness and peace. Regular massage combined with some gentle empowerment coaching is a pathway for Mums (Dads, kids and Grands too) to achieve what they want to achieve in mind, body and spirit!

 

 

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Helen Brougham is a Mum of 4, remedial & pregnancy massage therapist, empowering author and coach, owner of Chelsea Massage Clinic. She is passionate about empowering women to step through life's challenges with ease and grace. Helen's newest book, "Empowering You & Your Family" is a down to earth approach to Love, Peace and Joy for Mum's everywhere. You can purchase the book right from this site.

You can learn more about Helen by going to http://HelenBrougham.com.au or visiting http://ChelseaMassage.com.au

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Being Resourceful On The Roller Coaster Ride Of Life

Helen Brougham - Wednesday, June 20, 2012

A roller coaster ride goes up and down, in and out. It darts in here and over there. When you are on the roller coaster, you feel like you are being thrown every which way, constantly changing direction without warning. Being resourceful can be the edge of where you are right now!

When this sort of thing is happening to you or around you, know in yourself that you will get through whatever is happening! You've experienced this kind of thing before and you made it through. You will make it through again!!

When this kind of thing happens, most people don't know what is wrong. They don't know why they are feeling the way they do??? It feels like they are on a roller coaster - a roller coaster called life.

Grief, upset and sadness can come from

  • Being yelled at
  • Falling over suddenly
  • Being rejected
  • Car accident  (big and small)
  • Unexpected news
  • Sickness or death in the family
  • Job loss
  • Income
  • Separation
  • Child's behaviour problems

Think back to when you were happy and then something happened. This is when all of those feelings could have started...

You are the only one that can bring yourself through this challenge that life has thrown at you. No matter what it is, you must know that on the other side will be the opposite of what is happening right now. We are all learning at different levels and this is very normal.

Endurance is to stay in yourself, to let yourself feel what is going on, and knowing that you will keep going, and that you will OK. If you move outside of yourself, there is more chaos all around you and you will be feeling everything that everyone else is feeling.

Often people will say "hang in there". What they are really saying is that "you will get through this time and be a better person for it". They mean well but that really doesn't help you and can actually have you feeling more stressed. So, just let it go.

What you are feeling could be grief. There are many different kinds of grief, but they all feel the same.

  • Your head and mind will feel heavy, confused and sadness
  • You will have no energy and would rather stay in bed -  this is very common
  • You feel a weakness in your body
  • Don't feel like eating
  • You feel cold even if it is sunny

Things to be aware of when you feel this way.

Your mind will be living more in the past. When this happens your mind  is not present so you will not remember where you put things. You will be forgetful, forget passwords, do things back to front, you will get upset quickly, even cry at the smallest things, get frustrated with yourself and others.

House keys and Car keys! Here are a couple of tips that can help you when you lock yourself out :)

  • Have a spare set of keys with your nieghbour and family member that lives close by
  • Extra keys in your purse
  • In a place that is safe outside the home
  • Make sure you turn off the stove and heaters before going to be bed
  • Stay away from Alcohol, other substances, driving fast and negative people
  • Going to the gym and doing lots of exercise will cause more problems (others often don't want to do exercise at all)

Using your tools and being resourceful

  1. Having regular massage this does relax the body, mind and the muscles
  2. Mediation is calming and balancing to the mind.
  3. Get some coaching and massage together, this what I do for clients
  4. Yoga is a balance of the mind, relax organs and helps relax the muscles
  5. Walking around the block can refresh the mind and body
  6. Communication with the person
  7. Get a notepad and pen, writing your thoughts down are way to getting those thoughts out of you head (PROS & CONS)
  8. Having lunch and dinner with family
  9. Going out for cups of tea or coffee with a friend
  10. Watch happy movies and listen to relaxing music
  11. Use aromatherapy oils in an electric burner as they are safe to use if you forget it is on.
  12. Essential oils of Lavender rose and orange
  13. Read empowering books to lift your thoughts

Make it easy on yourself and come visit us at the Chelsea Massage Clinic. Here is the number to call and book an appointment 83646088 to have a massage, it makes such a difference to all of you.

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Helen Brougham is a Mum of 4, remedial & pregnancy massage therapist, empowering author and coach, owner of Chelsea Massage Clinic. She is passionate about empowering women to step through life's challenges with ease and grace. Helen's newest book, "Empowering You & Your Family" is a down to earth approach to Love, Peace and Joy for Mum's everywhere.

      

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Bonus: Car Sticker Back Window

Helen Brougham - Thursday, March 22, 2012


Empowering You & Your Family

Car sticker stands proud on Back Window




  Buy the book 
BONUS: Car stickers for the back window and will be sent with your book.

When I thought of the car sticker I felt this was something special to bring aware to all mum's to be Empowering Mum's to be the best they can be, empowering positive behaviors and be empowered for the world's children, they create the children male and female from an empowering place so their children can take their place from a whole other level based on empowerment, being empowering and passionate adults.
Coming from a place empowering for themselves and empowering for others, willing to be open, learn and grow earning their place to bring about a profound sense of confidents, connecting with all people and natural and bringing about an up lifting abundance for everybody.

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